TELL ME YOUR DREAMS

              A woman was having issues in her relationships and decided to talk to a psychologist. When she got to his office, she sat down on his sofa.

The psychologist looked at her and said “Tell me your dreams”

That baffled her. My dreams? Like seriously? How is that going to help me?

He smiled. “Your dreams say a lot about you. So tell me your dreams”

“Ok…..my dreams….I dream of a happy life, a life full of happiness, void of sorrow and loneliness”

“Is that all?” he asked.

She lifted sad eyes to him, “Yes”

The psychologist answered her. “This can’t be all you dream about. What about achievements? Fulfilments...”

She cut in. “He doesn’t want an independent woman. He wants a traditional woman who is down to earth, submissive and obedient. A woman who attends to his entire whim, a woman at his beck and call”

The psychologist nodded knowingly. “Now I understand”.

          A relationship involves two different person coming together to build a future based on love, trust and patience. Talking openly about your differences, help you to understand each other properly.

        Tell each other your dreams, expectations, hopes, ambitions, achievements and fulfilments. When your dreams don’t mesh, there will be problems of one person being put down, or being trodden underfoot. A man who is ambitious will never get along well with a woman who leaves things to chance, who rather let opportunities find her than chase after them. Likewise a man who prefers fresh home cooked meals every day, shirts starched and ironed, a warm home to go to after the day’s work will never get along well with a woman who is career conscious and believes that microwaves and freezers were manufactured for a reason.

        Marriage is a long-time contract. Don’t get in under duress, or because your friends are all married. Use your single time wisely. Live your life fully. Chase your dreams. Don’t allow them to be snatched from you. The worse thing to happen to a person is living a purposeless life, a life that is not driven by goals or dreams. Before you walk down the aisle, before you say “I do”, before you sign the dotted lines, take a pause. TELL EACH OTHER YOUR DREAMS.

 

Humbly submitted,

Monisola Tairu